A devotee’s question: Radhe Radhe Didi. So, we observed silence for the last 3 to 4 days and this is the first time I could follow somewhat, but then I just wondered whether I could continue the same thing after going home. So how can I keep up with that?
Sushree Gopeshwari Devi Ji’s answer: You can keep up with this, try to, when you go back home.
See, every sadhana practice we do here, you collect all this wealth. Now don't lose it. Keep it when you go back home. As Maharaj Ji always used to say, “You people go back home and you become demons, rakshas, because you people just forget everything, let go of everything. You just throw away everything.” Don't throw it away in a rubbish bin. Keep it. It's a treasure and always be open to see this treasure, meaning always go back to these experiences and practice it at home.
But there will be a home environment, there will be children, there will be parents, there will be husband, wife, whatever; you'll have to attend to them with minimum words, minimum.
If you have said, “Bring cabbage.” And your husband or wife didn't understand. Instead of pattā gobhī (cabbage), they brought phool gobhī (cauliflower). So instead of that leafy cabbage, they brought that flower cabbage, that phool gobhī.
And then you say, “I said pattā gobi! Why did you bring phool gobhī?”
No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Pattā gobhī has come, so make pattā gobhī. Phool gobhī has come, so make phool gobhī. Reconcile within yourself so there’s no fighting.
“I had kept the spoon here! Why did you put it there?”
Small, small things and we fight. Try to work it out in your own mind. You will get angry in the beginning. “I put it there. Where is it?”
Don't shout, don't scream. Tell yourself, “Okay, it's all right.” Very quietly, after your anger has subsided, very nicely, in a very sweet manner, be it with your children, with your spouse, whoever it is say,
“I had kept the spoon there and it took me, you know, a few minutes or an hour to look for it. Next time if it's here, then the work will be done faster”
You can just write that; you can just text it. I have realized that when I speak with some people on the phone, it can be really aggressive. So you know what I do? I text, and when I text they say, “Your text messages are always so good!” It’s because I'm not speaking. They can't hear my voice. It is so beautiful.
So learn to put it into practice in this manner, and continue to do your sadhana. Do the sadhana at a time when there is no one else standing on top of your head demanding for something to be done. Do all that work first and then do your sadhana at your own time, so that externally you don't make everybody realize and think and experience that,
“Oh God, my wife is getting pagli (mad)! She's getting mad, crazy! She's spending so much time doing sadhana!”
No, no, no, do like the gopis. They're doing all the household chores. They're going to do their own things. You may have to go to the office, etc. All the time, remember that He's with me, watching me. You have to remind yourself. And then your personal sadhana that you were doing here, try to do it at home in your own good time where there is no disturbance, no arguments, no fight, etc. Maintain that. Try to speak as little as possible. It's only the jabān (the tongue). That's it. Okay?
